How do you handle bad things? Are you successful handling them? There are degrees of bad things. I’m not talking about the “D” Bad things like death, disease or disaster. I’m talking about the “F” bad things like a flat tire, fumbling for your keys and not finding them, forgetting a doctor’s appointment,or falling down and getting bruised. These are the day to day obstacles and challenges that appear in anyone’s life.
See Life happens. It happens to us all. Good and Bad things happen. It even happens to successful people. The difference between successful people and others is in how they handle these things that appear in their path.
How do you handle everyday ‘bad’ things? Do you get flustered? Do you get frustrated? Do you fuss? Do you groan? What do the “Good” people do when bad things happen? What do Successful people do? They get going. The good get going. They look at these things from a different perspective. They don’t let these things stop them in their track or hold them back.
Here are 7 Things they Don’t do and What they do do. They:
How you handle the day to day “F” things in life lends to making the “D” bad things in life easier. It’s not a question of “Why do bad things happen to good people? It’s a question of how do the good, the successful handle the ‘bad’ things. Which of the 7 things above do you do or can you start doing so that you are more successful when the “F” Bad things happen to you?
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I think the most important one for me above is #4 – ASKING – before jumping to conclusions! This is, was, and probably always will be my growth action in situations, and the difference between my ability to stay positive or not! thanks for the thoughts!
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 13th, 2014 at 10:07 am
Cena ~ I love it! Asking as a growth action……..terrific 🙂
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Comment by Cena Block from SaneSpaces.com — January 13, 2014 @ 8:22 am
I practice #5 – don’t let your thoughts turn negative. When I find myself thinking negative thoughts I stop, take a breath and try to find a thought that feels better than what I’m feeling in the moment. I go to my Happy Place 🙂
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 13th, 2014 at 10:07 am
Your happy place is so important ~ otherwise, we go down that rabbit hole, don’t we? 🙂
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Comment by Stacy Luft — January 13, 2014 @ 9:00 am
Oh, this makes me think of that great Jerome Kern tune, Pick Yourself Up:
“Nothing’s impossible, I have found
For when my chin is on the ground
I pick myself up, dust myself off
And start all over again.
“Don’t lose your confidence if you slip
Be grateful for a pleasant trip
And pick yourself up, dust yourself off
And start all over again.”
Except you don’t have to start All over again. You just need to change your perspective, recalibrate and get moving again.
Very cool.
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 13th, 2014 at 2:49 pm
Nancy!!!! My mom used to sing that to me when I was a kid all the time~ for the little things and the big things too!!! And, too, you are right ~ recalibration is good!!! Thanks for giving me a “Mom” memory today!
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Comment by Nancy Tierney — January 13, 2014 @ 1:48 pm
I figured it was easier for me to just copy and answer:
1. Don’t shy away from the problem. Look for solutions: ALWAYS DO!
2. Don’t look at the problem. See Opportunity: ALWAYS TRY TO DO!
3. Don’t Blame Others or the Situation. Take action: ALWAYS DO AS LIFE HAPPENS!
4. Don’t leap to conclusions. Make inquiries: YOU KNOW THE SAYING ABOUT ASSUME?
5. Don’t let your thoughts turn negative. Think Positively.
6. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. Focus on bringing change to your day: ALWAYS TRY TO DO ALTHOUGH IT IS SO EASY TO BECOME TRAPPED.
7. Don’t go it alone. Ask for assistance: HAVE A REALLY HARD TIME WITH THIS ONE. I WAS REARED THAT YOU WERE STRONG YOU DIDN’T NEED HELP. IT HAS BEEN EASIER THIS YEAR [MEANING 2013 +] AS I REALIZED I NEEDED MORE HELP BECAUSE OF MY fibromyalgia.
NOTE: I TYPED MY MEDICAL ISSUE IN LOWER CASE TO SHOW I AM NOT ALLOWING IT TO TAKE OVER MY LIFE ANYMORE. 🙂
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 14th, 2014 at 11:00 am
Bonnie!!! I love your response 🙂 And I love that you typed fibro in lower cases 😉 So awesome!!! Yes, it is so hard to break the thread that binds us to the lessons taught or learned as a youngster. But, I’ve found the more I ask for help, the more I can help and the stronger I have become. Cheers to Asking for anything you need,desire or want in 2014!
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Comment by Bonnie Boucek — January 14, 2014 @ 9:02 am
Aw, Laura, jumping to conclusions is so much fun! And so is feeling sorry for myself….
Seriously, those are great tips to deal with the “F” things that happen. Thanks for writing about them.
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 15th, 2014 at 4:58 pm
I used to play ‘jump’ to see if I was RIGHT ~ but have decided it’s better to be HAPPY and Successful than right all the time. And I think we could all write a book about feeling sorry for ourselves 😉
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Comment by Lilia Lee — January 15, 2014 @ 12:12 pm
Wonderful tips … printed and posted on the wall – thanks!
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 16th, 2014 at 8:13 pm
I think that’s the first time ever that I’m a poster-girl!!!! 😉 Glad you in-joyed, Cindy….KEEP SMILING
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Comment by Cindy — January 16, 2014 @ 5:48 pm
“It’s not a question of ‘Why do bad things happen to good people?’ It’s a question of how do the good, the successful handle the ‘bad’ things.”
I LOVE THAT QUOTE!
One tip that I can take away – tip #1 – Don’t shy away from the problem.” Like an ostrich, I sometimes want to avoid that there IS a problem. THANKS for reminding me that the quicker I face it, the quicker I’ll be relieved of it!
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 17th, 2014 at 10:39 am
So true Star!!! I ask people “when you sweep things under the rug, do you know what you get?” The answer is mold. You must take an action approach (with your knowledge and divine guidance of course to challenges and obstacles!! Thanks for your thoughts 🙂 I love to hear them!
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Comment by Star — January 17, 2014 @ 10:18 am
Laura,
I loved this article. Taking positive action and keeping my thoughts positive are key to turning things around and ensuring the rest of the day doesn’t slide downhill. Thank you for posting this.
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 18th, 2014 at 8:02 am
Doris! You are so right ~ we can let things slide downhill so quickly and easily or we can CHOOSE to climb to the summit!!! Thanks for your comment KEEP SMILING 🙂
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Comment by Doris — January 17, 2014 @ 5:24 pm
Thanks for the simple, but profound reminders. #1 hits home for me. I heard someone say to “lean” into the challenge. Something about leaning that helps me not jump into fight or flight mode. #6 is awesome as well – make a choice and problem solve from a better place. Always good stuff! Thank you!
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 22nd, 2014 at 9:08 am
Leaning does give a sense of ease to it, doesn’t it, Tricia? It’s not about pushing, it’s not about resistance, it’s about moving with it in harmony as much as possible for the best outcome of all involved!!! Thanks for your thoughts 🙂
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Comment by Tricia — January 20, 2014 @ 5:18 pm
What a great list Laura! I’ve been focusing a lot on #2 – don’t focus on the problem. I was introduced to this line of thinking about 4 months ago and wow! What a different perspective that offers.
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Laura Clark Reply:
January 25th, 2014 at 11:48 am
The great thing, I’ve found Alyssa, about that is it shifts and changes the emotions of it and that creates exponentially results based on the highest good of all!! Thanks for your thoughts 🙂
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