Can you hear yourself complaining to others? What do you typically say? Can you hear yourself complaining to yourself? What do you typically say? Complaining serves no purpose. None what-so-ever. But, if you are complaining, you are not focusing on what is important in your life. So, how do you stop complaining?
Dale Carnegie said “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” You stop complaining by making a commitment to elevate your life. Then you:
First: you must realize that you ARE complaining. Sometimes, it’s easy to see. Other times, you rationalize that it’s not complaining. Listen to your words and the words of others carefully. Check in with yourself. Do these words raise UP your energy and your vibration? or Do they lower them? If they lower them, then it’s a complaint.
Second: simply stop complaining! If you are trying to attract wonderful things into your life, complaining will not bring them to you. The Universe will hear your complaints and answer with more to complain about. Complaining is simply a way to focus on unhappiness and a life that is ‘less than’. It allows you to be a martyr and a victim and who wants that? Start focusing on solutions and move forward from there.
Three: complain. But ONLY if it is a MUST do complaint, something that really really irritates you or emotionally ignites you, excuse yourself from where you are and physically step away for a moment. Complain to the Universe and then say “I’m okay now and ready to stop. I’m glad I got that out. I’m ready now to be rewarded for shifting my energy.” Go back to what you were doing with a renewed attitude. It’s easy to stop complaining with this step.
I have nieces and nephews and whenever I hear them begin to complain as children often do, I ask them “What does Aunt La say?” and they know now the rules of my house “No whining, no crying, no fussing, no problems.” It may not be as simple as that but typically saying this reminds them that they have to find solutions to the challenges they may be having. Good advice for us older ones! Yes, sometimes, you simply have to get it out. So, do that.
Fourth: make a commitment to stop complaining. Today! In our house, we sign a contract. Yes, that’s right. To stop complaining, when we feel that we are slipping from focusing our attention on what are solutions, steps forward and the joys that are our’s, we sign a contract. It goes something like this:
For the next <insert period of time> I <insert name> hereby commit to raising my vibrational energy by giving up all forms of complaining. If I find myself falling into a place of ‘whining, crying, fussing and complaining, I will stop in my tracts and turn my energy onto the positive “Where intention goes, Energy will flow” By doing this, I will attract more blessings and continue to embrace my inner-spirit and build my days upon my dreams. Signed: <sign name> Date: < add date>
This stop complaining contract allows for a complain-free space. Why don’t you try it? It even works with younger kids ~ just ask my nieces and nephews! I suggest a period of time no less than 28 days for that is the time it has been shown to create a new habit. It will help you create an environment that supports you rather than deflates you. Have you ever had a Stop Complaining Contract or something like this?