Addictions come in all shapes and sizes and we, as humans, all have them. Some have far more reaching consequences than others but all addictions stop us from reaching our highest potential. I have several addictions that I recognize more and more and one of them was the Do It Yourself Addiction. I am a recovering DIY addict.
Are you one of those people who has to Do It Yourself? Are you a perfectionist and feel like no one else can do it as well as you? Are you a ‘control~freak?’ Are you one who is slow to ask for help or support? Do you often say to yourself “I can’t afford that” or my personal favorite “It’s just easier for me to do it myself.” If you answered yes to any of these, you probably have a tendency toward the DIY addiction.
Why is DIY attitude an addiction? Quite simply because we are not meant to be able to do everything. We do not have the time, the energy, or the capabilities. Too, we are not meant to be ‘alone’ in this world. It is designed to work as an integrated unit filled with systems that support one another. Think about it…our ecosystem is a perfect illustration of this. Nothing can exist without the support of something else. When one species becomes extinct, another one becomes at risk. Take this theory and apply it to humans and our ability to get things done. We are all dependent upon one another. I certainly could not have a cell phone without the support of thousands of people who designed, developed and delivered it to me. AND, I certainly need help figuring out how to use it ~ it would take me WAY too long to do that by myself.
Think for a moment what your greatest dreams and desires are.…most people say to spend more time doing something else. How you create that for yourself is by having people support you and not by doing-it- (everything) yourself! An example is this: I want to spend more time with you. Yes, that’s my burning desire. To spend more time with my clients and those who follow me sharing my unique abilities to help people create more clarity in their lives and re-align their energies for more abundance and prosperity, more joy and live their lives on purpose. If I were to spend ALL my time doing ALL the techno-schtuff that it takes to run my business, I would NOT be able to serve more people. I am NOT techno-efficient!
TWO things you need to do to Kick the Do It Yourself (DIY) ADDICTION. It’s THAT simple ~ Surround & Surrender.
1) Surround Yourself with People who will support you. Friends, assistants, colleagues. Only include the people who will hold a space of support ~ who allow you to dream largely and laugh loudly.
This is my VIP Golden Group ~ a group of women aspiring to inspire the world with their unique abilities. It was taken last July when we first met together and gathered in a sacred environment to share our fears and dreams and grow together. We still connect often and support one another through challenges and achievements. I’m honored to be part of this sister-hood. Surrounding myself with women like this is priceless.
2) Surrender to your needs. Admit to yourself that you can not do it all, that you are NOT meant to be perfect, that the world needs you to spend more time doing exactly what you are meant to be doing ~ not the things that you are not brilliant at. Ask for the help and support that you need. Really ASK and it will be right around the corner for you.
What tendencies do you have to want to Do It Yourself? How can you counter-act that this week?